Chapter 3 talks about how guys treat women with no respect and think that it is ok to force sex on them. Forcing sex on another person is NEVER acceptable. It is their body and they should be able to choose what they want to do with it. I agree with Shalit that if every woman was treated respectfully and as a lady, it would decrease the harassment that has become so common today. While it is great, as a guy, to know that your girlfriend feels safer with you around, it is a shame that girls need protection in the first place.
The chapter also talks about how guys pressure girls into having sex and they just can't say no. If a girl does not want to have sex, then she should avoid being in a situation where a guy could talk her into it. If that's not possible, then the girl should say no and not be persuaded. I can only think of one reason why a girl would say yes when she really wants to say no. That is that she doesn't want to lose the guy. If a guy is going to dump a girl because she won't have sex with him, then it just wasn't going to work out in the first place. It will not be a long lasting relationship. So say no, have no regrets, and find a guy that will respect you.
-Bryan Leonardy
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I completely agree that we feel safer with a male around. I am not even sure why that is, but it is ok with me. Maybe I am old fashioned, but I like the fact that a male feels protective of a girl...I think it is cute.
I do not agree with Shalit when she says that girls can't say no to sex. If they do not want to have sex then they shouldn't put themselves in that position. In my experience, saying "NO" works just fine. I do not think all guys sweet talk girls into sex; if a girl wants to she will, nobody has to be persuading her. I think some girls have sex with someone on their own but regret it later.
I love the last line Bryan. I completely agree...
-Lindsey Winesburg
This Chapter 3 was the most interesting so far! I agree with Bryan when he said that sometimes girls will have sex to not lose their men! But if we look at such situation nowadays is really difficult, even impossible for a guy to date somebody in a long term without expecting having sex with that person! So it seems like if a girl wants to have a strong and long lasting relationship that could lead to marriage she would also have to sacrefice her modesty wish! Otherwise she will probably end up old girl, or marry someone she barely know because she would have been dating him for less than a year!
yaye
Girls can say "no." I have no idea where Shalit got that notion, but she is completely wrong in my experience. "NO" has always worked for me. If you are in a position where a guy keeps pressuring you for sex when you have already said no then you made the first mistake by actually speaking to that jerk to start with. You should choose your men like you choose your friends.
Of course I feel safer with a guy around me. However, I also feel safer with a friend (girl) around me as well. I never walk alone at night. I feel as if 90% of the time girls are simply making themselves vulnerable and that is why rape occurances and abuse against women are so high. Girls, make smart decisions and be aware!
-Chelle
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